Tuesday, August 27, 2013


So.....it's definitely safe to say that I'm a big girl(LITERALLY). However, I have also recognized that my prodigious frame houses and even bigger heart. The problem with having an enormous heart is that you have an overwhelming desire to help almost anyone and everyone. That, my friends, can cause inevitable heartache and depletion.

Have you ever felt like there is someone or something that is always trying to take away from what you have? It doesn't necessarily have to be materialistic or financially but sometimes it could be just  PEACE OF MIND. The truth of the matter is that, there is always going to be some type of force that will be on a steadfast mission to unnerve the very core of your being. It seems like every time that I am face to face with one of these forces, for some reason I think of one of my favorite lines of the movie, Malcolm X....."GET YO HAND OUT MY POCKET!!"

I am learning almost on a DAILY basis to not allow people/things to rob me of the elements that have helped sustain my serenity and sanity. Whenever, I am faced with people who do not share the same mentality as myself and it is clearly evident that anger and hostility is a part of their daily operation, I chuckle to myself and remember my line "GET YO HAND OUT MY POCKET!!"

My "pocket" symbolically represents my SOUL, my SPIRIT and my HEART. I am a firm believer that God deposits beneficial "golden nuggets" into our hearts and souls through the utilization of trials, tribulations and blessings. Unfortunately, there are things/persons out here that are a mission and make it their purpose to rob us of these things.

I have learned to recognize it for what it is. These things/persons are just operating in their assigned positions. There is always going to be something/someone that tries to take out of your "pocket"  and  that's fine, accept that. This will never change. However, you have to see it for what it is, prepare yourself for the attack and be able to quote to that same thing, "I know what you are and what you are attempting to do, but...Partna, Imma need you to "GET YO HAND OUT MY POCKET!!"

Monday, August 26, 2013

The PURSUIT of happiness

So.....recently, a friend and I were engaged in a conversation about the roles of pursuit. I advised him that men do not pursue anymore. This conclusion has been formed due to my observation that men DO NOT have to pursue anymore. This is evident in the amount of "thirsty" women out here that will do anything and everything to get AND keep a man.

There has definitely been an overwhelming reversal of roles. To the point, that I honestly feel like some men do not know how to pursue anymore. Back in the days, men found pleasure in pursuing women. It's like it gave them a rush or something...and women, WELL.....they absolutely loved it as well....There is an exhilarating high that a woman gets when they put an abundance amount of work into themselves in hopes of being pursued. Like.... drilling over careful details of our appearance(you know that 360 turn that we do in the full-length mirror to ensure that we are not looking too ho'ish to draw the playa/ dog type but showing just enough skin to let the "right type" know, YEP, I'm a lady but I can be a bad girl too)

I believe when we, as women, try to take on the role of the man, more times than few, we come up feeling confused, looking overly anxious and "SHAWT" (aka short). Now, let me say this, I have known some women who have seen what they wanted(the man), took their heels off, put on their sneakers, laced them up and went out there, flipped the script and walked off with the prize(the man AND the ring). For those women, I salute you. However for a shy and traditional girl like myself, ummm...that's not only unthinkable but damn near nerve wrecking just thinking it.

When men actively pursue the woman, it's fulfilling the natural, innate desire in BOTH OF US. The man is acting on what has been instilled in them since the beginning of time and the woman, the same....Women are receivers by nature and we welcome the receipt of serious, genuine, sincere and respectable pursuit by a man. Notice, I said MAN not BOY, we will discuss that later(stay tuned to the next episode). When the roles of pursuit are followed by traditional standards, the PURSUIT of happiness can then be fulfilled and recognized in all it's ingenuity that it's meant to be.....In other words...."Chicks....fall back, be yourself, show that you are indeed interested, acknowledge that you NEED a man for some things and let nature take it's course."